Monday, May 30, 2011

Candor!

Y'all remember the Divergent Faction-of-the-week challenge, right? I know I missed talking about Amity last week, but I was really busy!

This week's faction was: Candor. The definition from the Divergent fansite is:

1. the state or quality of being frank, open, and sincere in speech or expression; candidness.
2. freedom from bias; fairness; impartiality.




I think Tris (the main character) was completely right when she surmised that being in Candor requires quite a bit of bravery itself. It's just a bravery you exercise verbally, instead of through actions like the Dauntless do. While I've never been one to provide false compliments or empty flattery, I don't believe that honesty is always the best policy.


The truth hurts people, often needlessly.


But sometimes it's needed, even if it does hurt.


Most of y'all know that my boyfriend and I broke up last week. I told him the truth: that I didn't see how it was going to work. And he agreed. I'm not looking for sympathy; we're both better off this way - but it did teach me how tough it would be to live in the Candor faction at times.


And for those of you wondering how my Amity week went... I did ok. I think I would be fine living in the Amity faction, but trying to live it in my actual life is tough - especially that week. I did watch this awesome TED talk about learning to put yourselves in your enemy's shoes.




And when I really felt like my sense of peace was failing? I went to a book store :-)


5 comments:

  1. (((hugs)))) on breaking up with your boyfriend! And I agree--being TOO truthful to the point of insult can be a fault in and of itself....but it is nice to be able to speak your mind. And definitely being truthful requires bravery at times!

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  2. Candor was tough- i just had one incident where I came right out and said the truth, the whole truth and nothing but... but the rest of the week was pretty normal.

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  3. I just got back from a working vacation, so haven't seen your posts. Sorry to hear about the breakup, but you're a strong woman. I love your coping skills. The truth, no matter how old you are isn't always easy. I think presentation of the truth is an art form.

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  4. Thanks everyone! The breakup really was for the best, so I'm fine and dandy. But, then again, I've always been good at leaving the past behind me and looking toward the future. I think it comes with being a military brat. :-)

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